45. Preparing Boys for Heroic Manhood w/Tim Wright
Tim has been an ordained pastor in the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America since April of 1984 when he joined Community Church of Joy, Glendale, AZ, as the associate pastor after graduating from Luther Seminary in St. Paul, Minnesota. Much of the work Tim did during his 22 years at Joy centered around creating seeker-friendly worship experiences, managing the staff, and overseeing Joy’s Leadership Center.
In 1994, Abingdon released Tim’s first book, A Community of Joy: How to Create Contemporary Worship. The book went on to become a “standard” book in Church Growth Circles on Worship and was even used in some Christian colleges/Seminaries as a recommended text on Contemporary Worship. Other books included Unfinished Evangelism: More Than Getting Them in the Door (Augsburg); a handbook on worship called Contemporary Worship (Abingdon); The Ministry Marathon (Abingdon); and The Prodigal Hugging Church (Augsburg Fortress).
Tim has had the opportunity to lead training seminars for pastors and church leaders in Australia, England, Finland, Canada, France, and Germany.In March of 2005 he left Joy to start a sister congregation of Joy called Community of Grace, in Peoria, AZ. This new church start has enabled him to pursue new ministry opportunities, specifically in the areas of connecting the church’s mission to the wider world, resulting in 3 trips to Rwanda; and in finding new ways to disciple children through adults based on the latest in brain research and theology. That’s when Michael Gurian came into his life!Tim and Michael Gurian have been working together since 2006 on issues of boys and girls. Together they have created several rites of passage programs and they travel the country presenting a one day seminar called The Helping Boys Thrive Summit.
Tim’s newest books are available on Amazon: Searching For Tom Sawyer: How Parents and Congregations Can Stop the Exodus of Boys from Church; and Sunday Schooling Our Kids out of Church: The True Story of How One Congregation Dropped Sunday School to Save its Soul.Tim is married to his high-school sweetheart, Jan. They have two children: daughter Alycia, married to Corey, and son Mike, married to Amber, and 5 grandchildren. (www.timwrightministeries.org)
Takeaways from this podcast:
- Tim Wright is Lutheran Pastor
- Tim has been a pastor for over three decades.
- He currently leads Community of Grace, Peoria, AZ
- Book: Why Men Hate Going to Church by David Murrow
- Tim and I explain why church gatherings are really designed for men and boys.
- 70-90% of all boys will leave the Christian church in their teens or twenties and not return.
- Book: The Wonder of Boys (Michael Gurrian)
- Three grandsons made it all personal.
- How parents and congregations can stop the exodus of boys from church.
- Over 90% of school age teacher are females and they are often ill equipped to know the brain science of boys.
- How the brain science of girls and boys are so different
- What is the best way to affirm a boy: model reading, be a good man, model what a godly man looks like, give your son the blessing of know you are proud of them, tell boys that you love them, catch them doing the right things and tell them good job, model what forgiven men look like, take the lead and bring your kids to church (even when they don’t want to).
- Dads and Moms parent in different ways and that’s okay. Utilize them both
- Saving Private Ryan is a great example of a man asking, “Have I lived a good life? Amy I a good men?”
- How do we develop a compelling manhood for boys: Masculine initiation, Rite of Passage
- For Tim’s Right of passage content: www.timwrightministries.org
- Christian Service Brigade
- Tim shares books with Rites of Passage.
- When a guy gets lost in manhood, he either goes in the cave (passivity) or become overly aggressive.
- If we don’t teach boys the way, we may raise a generation of men who are violent or passive.
- How a church/school can harness testosterone for good
- Testosterone makes a male become male.
- Validate boys. Education systems are designed for the female brain.
- There is a false narrative that girls are behind boys in school, and the reverse is actually true.
- Men are more vulnerable and fragile that what our culture may think.
- Have boys stand up or give them a squish ball to help them reengage in educational setting.
- Make movement a part of masculine education and worship services.
- Tim explains why requiring boys to read in kindergarten creates an insecurity and possible
- 85% of Ritalin type of drugs are given to boys (worldwide)
- Statistics show that homework is counterproductive.
- 8 Keys to Speaking “Boy” Key #1 – ACTION, Key #2 – Make it Visual, Key #3 – Separate the Boys from the Girls, Key #4 – Engage boys emotionally (How can we do this effectively?), Key #5 – Use Competition, Key #6 – Call Boys into a Masculine Spirituality, Key #7 – Love the Boys, Key #8 – Point Them to Jesus
- To engage boys emotionally we need to redefine emotion without the feminine language and understanding.
- The primary emotion from men is anger.
- Jesus used anger as a motivator.
- Men express emotion and language differently, so give boys permission to feel the way he is meant to feel.
- Girls use words to emote and boys use action to emote.
- Michael Gurrian and Tim Wright’s podcast, “The Wonder of Parenting” www.wonderofparenting.org.
How to connect with Tim:
44. The DNA of a Man w/Matt Hallock
Matt is a man with an incredible story of pain, recovery and a heavy dose of amazing. Matt’s spiritual discovery is shared in this podcast and in his book, DNA of a Man. Matt inspires men to become their best self by trusting God with their lives and living out of that identity.
Takeaways from this podcast:
- Matt has been married for 13 years and has three daughters.
- THREE PARTS: A MAN OF IDENTITY, A MAN OF PRINCIPAL, A MAN OF MISSION
- Book is written for Christian men who are unsatisfied with their faith, marriage, and their walk with Jesus.
- Matt’s physical illness led him to dig deeper into his faith and walk with God, and the mission of DNA of a Man came out of his growth.
- “Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse lepers, cast out demons. You received without paying; give without pay.” (Matthew 10:8)
- “And these signs will accompany those who believe: in my name they will cast out demons; they will speak in new tongues; they will pick up serpents with their hands; and if they drink any deadly poison, it will not hurt them; they will lay their hands on the sick, and they will recover.” (Mark 16:17-18)
- Christian men need to live big and stop living small.
- God led Matt to pray for a lady at Stanford Hospital and she received Divine healing through that experience.
- Men look for identity in their marriage through the validation of their wives.
- A great source of identity flows from their dads.
- “Every man needs to be initiated by the previous generation.” Matt Hallock
- A man needs to find their identity in Christ.
- Matt shares his struggle for connection with his Dad.
- Matt brilliantly says that a man of principle needs a code.
- John Wayne, “A man has to have a code, a creed to live by.”
- The Code is developed by knowing your identity, take an inventory of your desires, your struggles (enemies), and claiming God’s promises over the inventory.
- To purchase No More Mr. Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover
- Purchase DNA of a Man here.
How to connect with Matt:
- Connect with Matt in IG @ https://www.instagram.com/manwarriorking/
- Connect with Matt’s work and podcast: www.manwarriorking.com
43. Shaping Personal Vision w/Chad N. Zueck
Books mentioned in this podcast:
“DNA of a Man” by Matt Hallock
“Searching for Tom Sawyer” by Tim Wright
“Find Your Place” by Rob Wegner and Brian Phipps
“Strengthfinders 2.0” by Tom Rath
“Rocket Fuel” by Gino Wickman and Mark C. Winters
The most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight but no vision.Helen Keller
Takeaways from this podcast:
- Where there is no vision, the people perish. Proverbs 29:18, KJV
- Frederick Buechner, “The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.”
- Three questions to help shape a personal vision: Who are you? What gets you fired up? What about your world is broken and needs fixed?
- 6 Reasons why you need a greater vision: Vision keeps you moving forward. Vision spurs hope. Vision allows alignment. Vision gives you a map not a GPS. Vision overcomes obstacles and distractions. Vision is worth defending.
- Explore your unique offering to the world. http://www.fivefoldsurvey.com/
- Explore your Enneagram type. https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test & https://assessment.yourenneagramcoach.com/
- Thoreau, “In the long run men hit only what they aim at.”
Vision is a picture of the future that produces passion.Bill Hybels
42. Developing Masculine Friendships w/Chad N. Zueck
Takeaways from this podcast
5 ELEMENTS OF A FRIEND
- Anyone who imagines they can work alone winds up surrounded by nothing but rivals, without companions. The fact is, no one ascends alone.” Lance Armstrong, It’s Not about the Bike: My Journey Back to Life
3 Types of Masculine Friendships
- A Recreational Friend
- A Resilient Friend
- A Resistance Friend
If you see a man guy going through a rough spot, reach out to him!
- Don’t assume he’s good because he didn’t ask for help.
41. Transforming Lives Through Service w/Detective Sean Dodge
Detective Sean Dodge began his career in law enforcement with the Modesto Police Department in 1997. Since the beginning, his passion has been working with the youth in the community. Detective Dodge has been a volunteer with Big Brothers/Big Sisters, a D.A.R.E. Instructor at the elementary and junior high school level, the P.A.L. Director for the Modesto Police Department, a mentor with Discovery Challenge Academy, and, for the last ten years, a detective with the Special Victims Unit.
Within his current assignment, his primary responsibility is working with youth who have been the victim of physical/sexual abuse. Detective Dodge began running in 2003 and hasn’t stopped. He has participated in several marathons throughout the county and has the ultimate goal of completing a marathon in each state. He also recently qualified for the 2019 Boston Marathon with a finish time of 03:16:04. Recently, Detective Dodge has combined his love for running with his passion for the youth.
He now acts as a mentor with the Teens Run Modesto Program and regularly runs with at risk youth on his days off at a local elementary school. His ultimate goal is to provide mentorship, good relationships, and a positive environment through running to all the schools within his community. Detective Dodge has the desire to find other first responders throughout the country who have the same passion to mentor youth through running within their own community.
Here are some links to some publicity that Sean has received for his service.
Takeaways from this podcast:
- Sean runs marathons in full police gear in honor of fallen LEO’s
- Police Officer for Modesto Police Dept. since 1997 (23 years)
- Specializing in violent crimes to children
- Son of a police officer
- Sean’s support team helps him to perform at such a high level
- Showing Christ’s love toward the people he serves in what he keeps in his mind
- How treating other people with respect becomes a necessary soft skill
- How empathy gives Sean a frame of reference to a better police officer
- “A man that doesn’t get his wounds transformed by the gospel will transfer that pain to another person.” C. N. Zueck
- Why Sean runs marathons in full police uniform
- How Sean builds bridges with the community
- Why he and a friend started a program called “10K with a Cop”
- How Sean empowers kids to become their best self
- Sean was mentored in the Cadet program and that shaped his life of service
- How Sean weighed 280lbs and the dropped weight after a wake up call 18 years ago
- Sean picked up running to pursue better health
- In 2014 he set a goal of running a marathon in every state plus Washington D.C.
- Sean ran the Marine Corp Marathon in D.C. in full police uniform
- He has ran 9 marathons in full gear, countless half marathons, and one ultra marathon (45 miles) in full police uniform
- Sean last minute decision to run a marathon was also his fastest time (3:16:04)
- Sean has ran the Boston Marathon
- Humility is the base of service. Sean Dodge
- Men who dig into the four pillars provide a platform of service.
- “The purpose of law enforcement is to keep people safe.” Sean Dodge
- “Police officers shoot to stop.” Sean Dodge
- “The benefit of good verbal communication can deescalate a hostile situation.” Sean Dodge
40. Becoming a King w/Morgan Snyder
So if a guy on the street asked you, “What does it take to be a King?” How would you answer?
Morgan digs into this topic with depth and true consideration for the masculine soul. If you loved Wild at Heart, you will love “Becoming a King.” Morgan Snyder is a grateful husband of over 20 years and a proud father of a wildly creative and witty daughter and a joyful and passionate son. He serves as a strategist, entrepreneur, teacher, writer, and speaker. His passion is to both be shaped by and shape the men and women who are shaping the kingdom of God. In 2010, he established BecomeGoodSoil, a fellowship of leaders whose global reach offers guidance for the narrow road of becoming the kind of person to whom God can confidently entrust the care of his kingdom. Morgan serves on the executive leadership team at Wild at Heart and has contended for the wholeheartedness of men and women alongside John and Stasi Eldredge for more than two decades. He has led over a decade of Become Good Soil Intensives and sold out Wild at Heart men’s events across the United States, United Kingdom, South Africa, and Australia. (www.becomegoodsoil.com)
Takeaways from this podcast:
- 22 years working @ransomedheart
- Married 20 years, two kids
- “I felt like a man without a soul.” Morgan Snyder
- “We always gravitate toward the biggest story we can find.” Morgan Snyder
- The power of mentor-ship
- Wisdom has a long view.
- In time our inward life is to grow beyond our outward life.
- Outward we are wasting away verse.
- Why we should choose excavating before building out our masculinity
- Willard, “The primary work of God is finding men he can entrust with his power.”
- Many of the issues we see in the world have to do with a misuse of power.
- “We have too much kingdom and not enough character.” Morgan Snyder
- “The most important thing to remember is that every person is an image bearer of God.” Morgan Snyder
- To rebuild a man he must begin with image bearing and then move to heal brokenness.
- “For us to be a king, we must first become a son. God’s job is to initiate and ours is to respond.” Morgan Snyder
- “Our actions reveal belief.” Dallas Willard
- Jesus lived in strength through dependency.
- “God is after the entire restoration of the human person.” Morgan Snyder
- What a generalist is and why it is needed to be a king.
- “Margin” Book that was mentioned by Morgan Snyder
- “We are hardwired for the easy button in our culture but the soul longs for more.” Morgan Snyder
- “A part of integrity is telling what you’ve lived.” Morgan Snyder
- Books Chad mentioned: How to Pray (Pete Greig), Measure What Matters (John Doerr), Lincoln (David Herbert Donaly)
39. Follow the Primal Path w/Jon Tyson
Jon Tyson is a Pastor and Church Planter in New York City. Originally from Adelaide, Australia, Jon moved to the United States twenty years ago with a passion to seek and cultivate renewal in the Western Church. He is the author of Sacred Roots, A Creative Minority, and The Burden is Light. Jon lives in the Hell’s Kitchen neighborhood of Manhattan with his wife and two children. He serves as the Lead Pastor of Church of the City New York.
Jon explored masculine initiation processes from around the world to give his son a proper process into manhood, and now we explore that practical journey. Jon’s heart for men is contagious and enlightening.
Look out for Jon’s new book called “Intentional Fathers” Here are some others that Jon has written.
Beautiful Resistance (2020)
The Burden Is Light: Liberating Your Life from the Tyranny of Performance and Success (2018)
A Creative Minority: Influencing Culture Through Redemptive Participation (2016)
Sacred Roots: Why the Church Still Matters (2014)
Rumors of God: Experience the Kind of Faith You’ve Only Heard About (2011)
Takeaways from this Podcast:
- Jon’s story of why he started his study of masculine initiation
- Jon shares a deeply personal story of how he came to Christ
- The difference between intentional and involved fathers
- The Four Movements of the Primal Path (Preparation, Initiation, Formation, Recognition)
- What Mormons are doing that Christian’s should all learn from
- What it means to win a son’s heart
- Why he and his son hiked the Camino in 33 days
- “Stop trying not to sin, and start living with a full heart.” Jon Tyson
- Learning to honor the past and family history
- Daily connections, weekly investments and monthly challenges
- What will your kids remember forever?
- Will your kids bring you their sin?
- Jon shares the power of a “severing dinner”
- Why masculine initiation needs to happen with men
- “Men need to be formed in private and bring their strength in public.” Jon Tyson
- Does your kid think, “Dad can help!”
- When NOT to read books!
- How to use your gifts and design a life you’ll be proud of
- The way to change of culture against manhood is live as men of honor.
- “When we produce honorable men the world will be refreshed by them.” Jon Tyson
- Honor is recognized.
38. Overcoming Distractions w/Sherman Burkhead
Sherman Burkhead is the senior pastor and teacher at First Baptist Church of Boron, California—a loving fellowship of growing disciples who want to go deeper in their faith and go broader in their outreach. Pastor Sherman has helped to lead the 81-year-old congregation back to its love of the Word of God and the foundational doctrines of the Christian faith.
As a former atheist saved by the grace of God later in life, Pastor Sherman is passionate about sharing the hope of the gospel of Christ with his community and beyond. He is also passionate about helping those who know Jesus to mature in their faith and bare the fruit of salvation in their lives. Because of that, he has led First Baptist Church to focus on discipleship. Out of that was born Pastor Sherman first book Distracted: Finding God in a Chaotic World.
Takeaways from this podcast:
- Sherman is a Christian pastor of a church in California.
- After growing up in church, he left the church and drifted into an atheistic belief
- He was an ardent atheist until giving his life to Jesus.
- Father of Five kids, 2 Grand kids
- Making an appointment and keeping that appointment with God is vital to growth.
- Sin leads to a lack of integrity.
- Why spiritual disciplines are needed to maintain faith.
- Why some spiritual disciplines are easier than others
- Why repentance and belief sets a man up for re-connection with God
- How Sherman’s brother gave up Meth
- The pathway of apprenticeship to Jesus is “being with God, becoming with Jesus and doing what Jesus did.” (Dallas Willard)
- Consequences from being disconnected with God (Lose sight of the Gospel, Live in our own strength, More susceptible to sin)
- “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. 2 Corinthians 12:8-10
- Great question to be asked for every Christian man, “What will bring God the most glory in this situation?”
- Another great question, “Which things will help me grow in my relationship with God?”
- “If Jesus spent time alone with the Father, shouldn’t you?” Sherman Burkhead
- We can easily make the assumption that God is like us into a point of idol forming.
- What fear does to a man’s confidence and ability to show up big in life.
- What has Sherman’s life turned around to a new man in Christ.
- Books that Sherman recommends: The Holiness of God (R. C. Sproul), The Forgotten Trinity (Dr. James White), Don’t Waste Your Life (John Piper)
37. Becoming a Wingman w/Chad Hennings
Chad grew up on a farm in Iowa, and it was the first place that he came to understand how important it was to build trust, be dedicated to your work, and hold strong morals and work ethic. He carried those same principles and lessons throughout his life and won 3 Super Bowl rings with the Dallas Cowboys. He served our nation as a U.S. Air Force A-10 pilot, flying 45 combat and humanitarian missions in Northern Iraq during the First Gulf War.
As a highly accomplished undergraduate at the U.S. Air Force Academy, he, also, was inducted into the College Football Hall of Fame.
He is an author, speaker, and founder of Wingman Ministries- https://wingmen.org/.
Follow Chad https://www.instagram.com/chad.hennings/
Takeaways from this podcast:
- Chad learned faith and commitment while growing up on a farm in Iowa
- His Brother pushed him athletically
- Chad was a multi sport athlete growing up
- Graduated from the Air Force Academy
- Flew A-10’s in the U.S. Air Force
- Was drafted in the same year as Michael Irvin, Ken Norton Jr.
- Flew his last mission of 1992
- Played in the Super Bowl that same year
- How growing up in rural Iowa set him up for success (Commitment, working hard, team dynamics, faith)
- “If we move at the pace of culture we will out pace Jesus.” Chad N. Zueck
- Entered the NFL as a 26 year old rookie and spent 9 years in the NFL
- Super Bowl Champions (3x) for the Dallas Cowboys
- How Chad kept his physical readiness from being a pilot to the NFL
- “Facing resistance over time gives us personal resilience.” Chad N. Zueck
- “Life is a continual set of learning experiences.” Chad Hennings
- What excellence looks like for a man.
- “A man pursues excellence by knowing who you are and following through by living a life of character and integrity.” Chad Hennings
- “What I do does not define who I am.” Chad Hennings
- “Surround yourself with men to help you stay accountable.” Chad Hennings
- What a Wingman does?
- “A Wingman accepts, affirms and holds another man accountable.” Chad Hennings
- Chad tells a great story of how these principles worked for him while he fly A-10’s
- How do men actually do this in Wingman Ministries
- Wingman Ministries partner with churches because most churches cannot fund men’s ministries.
- They center on works based projects and one on one discipleship
- Wingmen Ministries uses the “Vegas principle”- “What’s said here stays here.” Chad Hennings
36. Getting Into God’s Game w/Brett Murray
Brett Murray has been speaking in the public forum for 30 years. After focusing the last 18 years in schools with international success and recognition, Brett is now serving the broader corporate community sharing how to achieve your potential, lift revenue, increase productivity and performance. The key – ‘FOCUS’ – It was focus that enabled Brett to co-write and co-produce a TV series on National TV (CampDARE, 9 Network 2006), Focus helped Brett become a Youth advisor to the NSW state Government, helped him establish a youth round table that developed mentoring policies, saw the anti-bullying education platform be transformed in NSW and Tasmania.
The Key to Brett becoming an age Group Champion in 2-80-20 Distance Triathlon (Rottnest Island Suffer-fest 2016) and becoming the only ‘anti-bully triathlete’ in the world competing in multiple Ironman Events, it was focus.Focus is what has helped Brett Write, Direct, and Produce two surfing documentaries as well as Game Plan (You can purchase it on Amazon). It was because of Focus that Brett was able to take 10 young Muslim men across Kokoda in 2004, which became the highest rated news and current Affairs program in Australian History and helped turn these boys live around and reduce all Violent incidences in their school by 70% over the next 12 months and maintain that impact for a decade (Punchbowl High Daily telegraph Oct 3, 2003, DARE-ing the Kokoda Today Tonight April 2004).
Focus has seen Brett author 5 International books, be nominated 5 times for Australian of the year, co-found and be CEO of the world’s most effective bullying education and prevention charity (McCrindle research March 15, 2019. Make Bullying History Foundation) and produce the #1 Health and Well-being program in NSW (Clubs NSW awards 2018) and be at the core of turning around the social engagement of one of the most high profile NRL clubs in Australia (Cronulla Sharks Make Bullying History Initiative – GM – ONE Community NRL), as well as becoming the leading voice for 11 years on Youth, suicide prevention and parenting topics with the Seven Network Sunrise, The Morning Show and Daily Edition. The key that has now brought Brett to work alongside men to reduce DV and create cultural change with attitudes towards DV and family abuse, helping men turn their lives around – focus.
And now Brett talks about how his focus has turned in to helping men Get Into God’s Game Plan.
Takeaways from this Podcast:
- “The more informed we are, the better equipped we can be for life.” Brett Murray
- Married to Teresa for 26 years and they have 3 adult kids
- Their brokenness shaped their resolute mindset toward their marriage.
- Divorce was never an option.
- Brett is also connected to the New Man Crew.
- He works in the anti bullying space because he was bullied as a child. Boxing was a way to protect himself, gain respect, and prove to himself to be a man. He left school after his tenth grade year because of the rampant bullying. No Dad present.
- He got knocked out cold in his first amateur fight and oh yeah, he came back to win the state boxing title.
- Men look to prove themselves and if they don’t get it they seek to gain approve themselves. Brett Murray
- Brett shares why a man needs to prove himself.
- The number one influencer of self esteem and self worth in the life of a child is their father. Brett Murray
- Girls learn their value by their fathers protection. Brett Murray
- Boys identity comes from the father’s endorsement. Brett Murray (This is “my son”… verses, Mark 1 & Matt. 4)
- How surrendering to God gives us belonging, victory and blessing.
- If you want the blessings of God, the key is obedience. Brett Murray
- Christianity is the only way for a man to be fully integrated heart, soul, mind and body.
- We find fulfillment when we know what God has made us to do.
- How a man can find fulfillment and purpose.
- Passion flows out of identity and purpose. Brett Murray
- John 10:10 is a needed explanation of the reason we struggle relationally, physically, and spiritually.
- Three different values Brett explains from John 10:10. Satan comes to steal your mission, kill your vision and destroy your value.
- Check out Brett’s cool motorcycle designs @ https://www.instagram.com/murraybrawler/
- Brett can be found on IG @ https://www.instagram.com/brettmurray73/
35. Winning Against the Odds w/Aaron Hale
After six years as an expert EOD Technician in the military, Aaron Hale became blind when an unseen IED exploded in his face in Afghanistan in December of 2011. In the years that followed, Aaron rehabilitated himself to an extent most sighted people would envy – running marathons, climbing mountains, and even solo white water kayaking.
After a few years of learning how to “google” life while being blind, Aaron was rushed to the emergency room with a crippling headache, the doctors soon discovering that he had contracted a rare and dangerous bought of bacterial meningitis, causing him to lose consciousness for several days, eventually emerging from his comatose state with painful headaches, crippling vertigo, and the devastating realization that his hearing was now gone.In this inspiring story of “Winning Against the Odds,” Aaron and his wife McKayla have become chocolatiers in a business called E. O. D. Fudge (Extra Ordinary Delights). This compelling story is still unfolding and you can follow along in the links below.
Takeaways from this Podcast
- Went into the military for a sense of purpose, direction and discipline
- Began his military service in the Navy as a cook
- Cooked for an admirals, dignitaries and royalty
- Completed his enlistment in the Navy and reenlisted in the Army as an EOD technician.
- He rose to the position of team leader.
- After six years as an expert EOD Technician in the military, Aaron Hale became blind the moment an unseen IED exploded in his face in Afghanistan in December of 2011.
- In the years that followed, Aaron rehabilitated himself to an extent most sighted people would envy – running marathons, climbing mountains, and even solo white water kayaking.
- Years later, Aaron was rushed to the emergency room with a crippling headache, the doctors soon discovering that he had contracted a rare and dangerous bought of bacterial meningitis, causing him to lose consciousness for several days, eventually emerging from his comatose state with painful headaches, crippling vertigo, and the devastating realization that his hearing was now gone.
- “Our lives don’t just belong to us.” Aaron Hale
- Aaron found purpose in the trials and pain.
- In 2015, he ran the Boston Marathon, and now, he is training for a 100 mile race.
- Aaron came back to his roots after all the time of service and healing and started a chocolate company, E. O. D.. Thus E.O.D. Fudge was born, (the letters standing for Extra Ordinary Delights), the name not only serving as a nod to the years Aaron spent as an EOD Tech in the military but to the perfectionism with which he approached that former position. “I want to be the best at what I do,” Aaron states, “and E.O.D. Fudge to be the best fudge in the world.”
- You can get Aaron’s chocolate go to: https://eodfudge.com/
- Connect on Aaron on IG: https://www.instagram.com/eodconfections/
- Check out my friends at Narrative. https://www.narrativebrand.co/
34. Practicing Personal Accountability w/John G. Miller
Takeaways from this Podcast:
- The phrase “I can only change me” will change your life.
- Practicing Personal Availability at Work and in Life by asking better questions.
- Matthew 7:1-5 “judge not”
- “What can I do to be my best today?” John G. Miller
- Discipline our Thoughts, Ask Better Questions, and Take Action.
- “Make better choices in the moment by asking better questions.” John G. Miller
- Going the Extra Mile gives you an edge in life.
- A podcast for every person who desires to grow themselves personally, relationships, and a business.
- John’s ground level principles give a clear way out of Victim thinking, blaming, and procrastination.
- Three basic guidelines for creating a QBQ: Begin with “What” or “How” (not “Why”, “When”, or “Who”), Contain an “I” (not “they”, “them”, “we”, or “you”), Focus on action.
- “What can I do right now to make a difference?” John G. Miller
- Ownership: “A commitment of the head, heart, and hands to fix the problem and never again affix the blame.” John G. Miller
- Integrity: Being what I say I am by acting in accordance with my words. John G. Miller
- A common myth about accountability groups.
- Humility is the base of personal accountability.
- Learning is really about translating knowing what to do into doing what we know. It’s about changing. John G. Miller
33. Going All In w/Coach Buck Watkins
Coach Watkins is known for not only being an incredible coach, but also for his superior leadership skills. He gets the most out of his student athletes through the philosophy that there is no obstacle or adversity too big to get in his way.How to Connect with Coach BuckTwitter: @MindsetCoachBW
Partnerships with NKOM:https://anewkindofman.livefreecommunity.org/https://www.narrativebrand.co/
Takeaways from this podcast:
- “Do Whatever it takes” Buck Watkins
- How to handle failures
- What is a winning mindset
- How should skill set meet mindset
- Why dealing with emotions is necessary for leadership development
- Two key principles that Buck Teaches: Fear of failure, Pain of Regret
- “People respect you more when they know you have been there and will be later on.” Buck Watkins
- “Ride in the face of gun fire.” Buck Watkins
- “Put yourself in the fire!” Buck Watkins
32. 5 Characteristics that Separate Men From Boys
Jim Ramos’ passionate proclamation of God’s word, relational humor, and epic storytelling skills will keep you riveted in your seat. Jim is a highly sought after men’s event speaker, author, and internationally known podcaster.
In 2012 he and wife Shanna launched The Great Hunt for God and its mission to never cease building an army of men who are becoming the best version of themselves through Christ, and changing their world, because when a man gets it—everyone wins. In 2017 he launched the Man Card podcast that exploded in their first year to reach every state in the USA, nearly three-dozen countries, and 59 regions around the world (we still don’t know what that means). Subscribe to the Men in the Arena Podcast from all devices. Join men from around the world on the Men in the Arena closed Facebook forum for men, and one of our IVT’s (International Virtual Teams) equipping men to step up to their best version!
Jim has written nine books, including the popular Field Guide: A Bathroom Book for Men, The Man Card: 5 Characteristics Separating Men from Boys, The five-volume Man Card Series small group curriculum for men, Playbooks 1 & 2 with ninety team meetings for men. Find them HERE.
He lives in McMinnville, Oregon, with his beautiful wife Shanna. They have three adult sons and the cutest granddaughter you’ve ever seen. Jim loves the outdoors (especially hunting with sons James, Darby, and Colton), doing anything with Shanna, and listen to men share their story over a dark roasted Americano.
“Men are conquerors searching for the next hill to die on, goal to achieve, or target to shoot. Men lose heart when they lose sight of the target and settle into the mundane form of life that isn’t really living.”Jim Ramos
Takeaways from this Podcast:
Takeaways from this podcast:
- How Jim’s book, The Man Card, answers the question, “What is a man?”
- Jim’s explanation as to why some men are disinterested in church
- How to toxic masculinity is a lie.
- “Strong Men, Dangerous Times” release date in the fall
- Five things that men do: Protect Integrity, Fight Apathy, Pursue God Passionately, Lead Courageously, Finish Strong
- “Apathy is the greatest battle that every man will fight.” Jim Ramos
- The summit of manhood is pursuing God.
- Why men need to lead in the church and in their own life
- How and why recovering from the modern soft male is vital
- What does a man do? (Protector/Defender, Fighter/Provider, Pursuer of God/Builder, Leader/Sacrificer, Finisher/Conqueror)
- Why men struggle with integrity
- What PMS is for men: Passive Male Syndrome
- “Rescue is beauty.” John Eldredge
- Apathy is callousness.
- 80% of men in churches are apathetic towards God and themselves
- Why men are less social than women in social situations
- How to create better environments for men that connect with purpose
- Why some man settle to caricature of a man
- Books that Jim Recommends: Wild at Heart, Endurance, The River of Doubt , Four Pillars of a Man’s Heart, What Radical Husbands Do (Reggie Campbell)
31. Overcoming Adversity w/Navy Seal Jason Redman
Retired Navy SEAL and New York Times bestselling author Jason Redman divulges how to triumph over adversity using proven Special Operations habits and mindsets.
Adversity can often catch you by surprise and leave you struggling with what to do next. What if you could confront any adversity, from the biggest challenges — the loss of your job, divorce, health issues, bankruptcy — to normal daily challenges — a late flight, a disappointing phone call, a missed promotion, a bad day — and not just survive it, but thrive afterwards?
Redman was horrifically wounded in Iraq in 2007 when he was shot at close range through the face and arm. After 40 surgeries, including extensive facial reconstruction and skin grafts, he came back from this experience stronger than ever — despite carrying scars and injuries he will have for the rest of his life. Redman went on to launch two successful companies and speaks all over the country on how to build better leaders through his Overcome mindset.
Overcome is based on extensive research and interviews with America’s toughest warriors, including retired 4-star Admiral William McRaven, retired Navy SEAL Jocko Willink, retired 4-star General Stanley McChrystal, and others.
Purchase Overcome HERE
Jason gave a great TEDX talk. Click here for the link.
Takeaways from this podcast:
- How to Get Off the “X” (Major, Minor, & Macro)
- How to thrive through any life ambush
- How the Overcome mindset is nit a Seal mindset it is a mindset that anyone can choose
- How to move from defense to offense using the proactive techniques of SEAL teams
- How to strengthen your endurance during long-term trials
- How to rediscover and thrive in your life purpose
- How to lead your team (whether in business or family) to success
- How to compete with the top 1% in your field
- How to stay the course even when you want to quit
- How to live out of the Pentagon of Performance through Physical Leadership, Mental Leadership, Emotional Leadership, Social Leadership, Spiritual Leadership
- How to REACT your way to success: Recognize your reality, Evaluate your position, Access possible exit routes, Choose a direction and communicate it, Take action.
- How Jason beat the odds to be a Seal and even after he endured he suffered wounds in combat
- How Jason’s leadership failure was worse than the day he received wounds in combat
- How leadership is a learned venture
30. Daring Masculinity w/Paul Louis Cole
Paul Louis Cole is President of the globally recognized men’s mentoring organization Christian Men’s Network. Cole is one of the world’s leading experts on men’s issues, character maturity and personal life expansion. He is actively engaged in the restoration of families and rescuing children trapped in abuse and neglect.
His work as a journalist has taken him from the inside of firefights in Middle Eastern wars to perilous revolutions deep in the jungles of Central America. His extensive charity work ranges from the launch of the highly successful charity FarmAid working with Willie Nelson, assisting in launching one of the most successful AIDS programs in African history to building a mentoring program for at risk youth in the U.S. His professional accolades range from Emmy awards to Addy awards to numerous charity and civic awards. He could be considered a double outlier having invested over 20,000 hours in the pursuit of masculine excellence.
Paul is the son of the late Dr. Edwin Louis Cole, the Founder of the Christian Men’s Network who is considered Father of the Christian Men’s Movement. Paul is the founding pastor of C3 Church in Colleyville, Texas and currently serves as President of CMN. CMN is a very successful thirty-five year old church-based ministry, CMN leads a global men’s movement active in over 100 nations and connecting over 86,000 trained leaders on every major continent training over 400,000 men every month. The stated vision is that every pastor would be a successful disciples of men, and every Christian man a strong disciple.
Paul writes, travels extensively and speaks to thousands of men annually. Paul has written several books used in the CMN’s foundational Maximized Manhood curriculum, including “Daring: A Call to Courageous Manhood.”
Paul and his wife Judi reside in Grapevine, Texas. Paul is the father of three high achieving children and the proud grandfather of two amazing grandchildren.
“What you allow to define you will determine your destiny.”Paul Louis Cole
Takeaways from this podcast:
- Paul’s father, Edwin Louis Cole, wrote, “Maximized Manhood.”
- Over the next hundred years they have a vision to reach 100 million men.
- “Success is result of constancy of purpose.” Paul Louis Cole
- Get a vision and stay with it.
- How culture is downplaying our masculine strength
- “Rhythm” means plan the things that are going to make you more emotionally healthy.
- Thankfulness is a key ingredient to emotional health (Harvard Review Research Document HERE)
- Get a vision for your life.
- “Vision is the fuel for overcomers.” Paul Louis Cole
- Some common problems of manhood around the world.
- “Identity is what we tell ourself about ourself.” Paul Louis Cole
- Dr. Dobson’s approach to raising boys. Boys shouldn’t be a in classroom until 8 years old.
- The core issue of men is childishness.
- Men are like trees. They tend to fall in the way they are leaning. PLC
- “Every great culture has been built on the character of its heroes and the courage of its warriors.” PLC
- True of families, churches and nations.
- A hero loves others more than his own safety.
- To be a warrior has the ability to face the challenge.
- How Henry Nuewen was heroic
- How to rebuild yourself as a mature man.
- University of Pennsylvania stats about being held in her father’s arms it helps them immensely.
- Plato, “Most men live examined lives.”
- “Most men live uninitiated lives.” Paul Louis Cole
- Paul’s PODCAST INFO: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/brave-men-podcast/id1294789157
- How to get Paul’s Book, Daring: A Call to Courageous Manhood
29. Networking Secrets w/Paul Edwards
Paul is an Army combat veteran in Operation Iraqi Freedom. He is a professional content ghostwriter for faith-based influencers, thought leaders, entrepreneurs and executives. He specializes in capturing “your voice and producing a steady stream of content to reinforce your impact” through blogs, e-mails, sales letters, tweets, Alexa brief scripts, video scripts, digital courses.
Paul Edwards is an international bestselling author and host of the Influencer Networking Secrets Podcast Show. He is the architect and founder of the Business Beyond Business Mastermind, a strategic connector mastermind group that incorporates teaching, mentoring and accountability for the Radically Generous Entrepreneur. When you read and follow Paul’s “3M” advice, you’ll become a Magnetic source of guidance, wisdom and accountability; a Magnanimous source of generosity, fellowship and coaching; and a Marketable source of entrepreneurship, small business and social innovation.
In his free time he likes to hang with his family and compete as an amateur bodybuilder.
Takeaways from this podcast
- God’s blueprint for married life
- How the Torah is the instruction for marriage
- How God made man and women difficulty
- Proverbs 31:10-31 as a guide for men looking for a virtuous woman
- Army combat veteran in Operation Iraqi Freedom.
- Paul’s fitness journey
- 10 Secrets to Networking Success- Paul’s First Book
- Business Inside of Business
- Why Bill Clinton could draw attention from any crowd
- How to Make Yourself as Frequent and Visible as a Radio or TV Commercial
- Why just being yourself can be a huge edge in marketing (unless your a jerk)
- How to create your own unpaid sales force
- How deep and superficial relationships can help you win
- How can we make it difficult for people to say no
- Go with a giving hand gives you a step forward
- Build a case to make the working relationship an easy sell
- Help people to have one more advantage by working with you
- How John Eldredge and Ransomed Heart has impacted Paul’s life
- Ask Three Big Questions to help connect relationally: What is going well for you? What is not going well for you? What are you looking forward to?
How to connect with Paul
28. Talking Masculine Archetypes w/Michael Pfaff
Michael is a a Life and Relationship coach based out of Oklahoma City. He works with people who want a better life and better relationships. Michael has a Master’s degree in Depth Psychology.
Takeaways from this podcast
- For Michael’s Men’s Coaching Practice: https://www.facebook.com/coachmichaelpfaff/
- Masculine Archetypes: Warrior, King, Magician, Lover
- What is an archetype?
- How the archetypes correspond with the four pillars of New Kind of Man
- How the archetypes can be developed in a man’s life
- How there is a boyhood version of these that needs to mature into the masculine archetypes
- How the archetypes when fully expressed thrive off of one another
27. Forging a Noble Manhood w/Stephen Mansfield
True manhood is in decline in our generation. Our society has deformed masculinity, leaving most men unfulfilled and far from the impact they were made for. Stephen will help you fight the battles of your life, the battles you must fight to be the man you are meant to be. Stephen has authored 26 books and he is a reliable voice for men everywhere. His work expands the globe, and he resides in Nashville and also, in Washington DC. As a New York Times bestselling author, Stephen has impacted millions. You can find his work @ https://stephenmansfield.tv/ & https://greatman.tv/.
“What if living in a relationship with God isn’t castration? What if it isn’t like the surgical removal of the very drive and instinct we’ve ever had as men? What if, instead, God wants to enter a relationship with us in which he meets us exactly where we are as men?”Stephen Mansfield
Takeaways from this podcast
- Author of 26 books
- “Endure hardship as discipline.” Hebrews 12:7
- How manhood can improve because of Covid-19
- How brokenness in the society shaped Men on Fire
- To be a man is to know that God made you to be a man and that shapes the way for a man to live.
- We need to restore a culture of noble manhood and teach our boys.
- Why men need to choose a noble battle to fight
- Why Roosevelt and Churchill are inspiring men today
- What events in Winston Churchill’s life shaped his greatness
- Hardship and suffering makes us stronger when we go through it the right way
- How give heritage to the next generation
- The battle begins when you realize there is a battle
- A man needs to use his masculine energy in healthy ways
- Why a man needs to declare war on himself
- How to declare war on himself
- “When a man knows his battle it can become a GPS for their soul.” Stephen Mansfield
- Why our feminized culture is causing boys to grow breast
- How the effects a man’s change can rapidly change a family culture
- Get ready to live changed as we get on the other side of Covid 19
“Men should live for the good of society and the glory of God.”Stephen Mansfield
How to Connect with Stephen
26. Being Unbreakable w/Scott Flansbaum
Scott’s journey has many twists and turns, but Scott is still standing! Literally. He is a walking miracle. After a routine procedure, he heard news that no one would ever want to hear, “Your paralyzed.” His hard work, grit and determination along with what nurses called a miracle, has shaped Scott in profound ways and he is paying it forward by helping others. Stand by for some inspiration!
The only choice you have in tough times is our response.Scott Flansbaum
Takeaways from this podcast
- Why Scott is celebrating other people’s unbreakable story
- How his faith didn’t waiver through his unbreakable journey
- How Scott is using his tragedy to inspire others
- How being a father can help brighten you day
- Why a legacy of service is contagious
- How Scott looks out for the marginalized
- How strong willed kids need to be bent towards something productive
- How Scott has overcome one of the worst days in his life
- How his spinal injury left him with a diagnosis that he was paralyzed
- How he mentally defied the doctors diagnoses
- How the right mindset sets you up for success
- What paralysis is actually like
- Why Scott’s nurses said he was a walking miracle
- How Scott continues to fight to walk every since
- How $72K was raised in two weeks for his specialized brace
How to Connect with Scott
25. Learn, Live & Lead like a Warrior w/ Ret. Navy Seal Chris Sajnog
Chris’ mission is to see others realize their full potential, achievement, growth, and success – and CURE THE DISEASE OF MEDIOCRITY!
Chris has been speaking publicly for more than 25 years. He has also appeared on many television shows, including Fox News and NBC. He has spent most of my career in the military and recently retired to watch his boys grow up! During his time in the military he traveled the world speaking to our leaders and “convincing them” to give us the mission – I feel confident I can convince your team to reach your goals!
Chris devotes his time to writing, consulting, and speaking. His book, How to Shoot Like a Navy SEAL is the best selling shooting book on Amazon. I also have more than 20,000 followers on Twitter and “fans” on Facebook.
“What would William Wallace do?”Chris Sajnog
Vulnerability is strength.”Chris Sajnog
Takeaways from this podcast:
- How being a father shifted the importance of his life’s mission.
- Why lying to yourself betrays our confidence as men
- Why every man has to first lead themselves
- Why all men need to watch Hacksaw Ridge
- How resistance helps to grow men and prove their own manliness
- How being a Navy Seal helped Chris to have greater focus
- How to encourage your kids to do the right thing
- Why surrounding yourself with good fathers can help you to become a good father
- How Chris got orders to to BUDS
- Why he choose the Navy
- The most difficult part of BUDS
- The funniest thing that happened at BUDS
- Why Navy Seal training is a well orchestrated process
- How he honed his skills as a Navy Seal Sniper
- How adapting skills can be
- How he become a better Dad through what he learned as a US Navy Seal
- How a warrior ethos impacts every aspect of life
- How warriors need soft and hard traits need to be balanced
- Why I got out of the Navy
- Why humility is a great way to help connect with your family
- Why manliness is best for society
- How genders are different but equal
- How to be more manly
Books Chris Recommended
- The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown
- Wild at Heart by John Eldredge
- Navy Seal Shooting by Chris Sajnog
- How to Shoot Like a Navy Seal by Chris Sajnog