32. 5 Characteristics that Separate Men From Boys

Jim Ramos’ passionate proclamation of God’s word, relational humor, and epic storytelling skills will keep you riveted in your seat. Jim is a highly sought after men’s event speaker, author, and internationally known podcaster.

In 2012 he and wife Shanna launched The Great Hunt for God and its mission to never cease building an army of men who are becoming the best version of themselves through Christ, and changing their world, because when a man gets it—everyone wins. In 2017 he launched the Man Card podcast that exploded in their first year to reach every state in the USA, nearly three-dozen countries, and 59 regions around the world (we still don’t know what that means). Subscribe to the Men in the Arena Podcast from all devices. Join men from around the world on the Men in the Arena closed Facebook forum for men, and one of our IVT’s (International Virtual Teams) equipping men to step up to their best version!

Jim has written nine books, including the popular Field Guide: A Bathroom Book for Men, The Man Card: 5 Characteristics Separating Men from Boys, The five-volume Man Card Series small group curriculum for men, Playbooks 1 & 2 with ninety team meetings for men. Find them HERE.

He lives in McMinnville, Oregon, with his beautiful wife Shanna. They have three adult sons and the cutest granddaughter you’ve ever seen. Jim loves the outdoors (especially hunting with sons James, Darby, and Colton), doing anything with Shanna, and listen to men share their story over a dark roasted Americano.

“Men are conquerors searching for the next hill to die on, goal to achieve, or target to shoot. Men lose heart when they lose sight of the target and settle into the mundane form of life that isn’t really living.”

Jim Ramos

Takeaways from this Podcast:

Takeaways from this podcast

  • How Jim’s book, The Man Card, answers the question, “What is a man?”
  • Jim’s explanation as to why some men are disinterested in church
  • How to toxic masculinity is a lie. 
  • “Strong Men, Dangerous Times” release date in the fall
  • Five things that men do: Protect Integrity, Fight Apathy, Pursue God Passionately, Lead Courageously, Finish Strong 
  • “Apathy is the greatest battle that every man will fight.” Jim Ramos
  • The summit of manhood is pursuing God. 
  • Why men need to lead in the church and in their own life
  • How and why recovering from the modern soft male is vital
  • What does a man do? (Protector/Defender, Fighter/Provider, Pursuer of God/Builder, Leader/Sacrificer, Finisher/Conqueror)
  • Why men struggle with integrity
  • What PMS is for men: Passive Male Syndrome
  • “Rescue is beauty.” John Eldredge
  • Apathy is callousness. 
  • 80% of men in churches are apathetic towards God and themselves 
  • Why men are less social than women in social situations
  • How to create better environments for men that connect with purpose
  • Why some man settle to caricature of a man 
  • Books that Jim Recommends: Wild at Heart, Endurance, The River of Doubt , Four Pillars of a Man’s Heart, What Radical Husbands Do (Reggie Campbell)

31. Overcoming Adversity w/Navy Seal Jason Redman

Retired Navy SEAL and New York Times bestselling author Jason Redman divulges how to triumph over adversity using proven Special Operations habits and mindsets. 

Adversity can often catch you by surprise and leave you struggling with what to do next. What if you could confront any adversity, from the biggest challenges — the loss of your job, divorce, health issues, bankruptcy — to normal daily challenges — a late flight, a disappointing phone call, a missed promotion, a bad day — and not just survive it, but thrive afterwards?

Redman was horrifically wounded in Iraq in 2007 when he was shot at close range through the face and arm. After 40 surgeries, including extensive facial reconstruction and skin grafts, he came back from this experience stronger than ever — despite carrying scars and injuries he will have for the rest of his life. Redman went on to launch two successful companies and speaks all over the country on how to build better leaders through his Overcome mindset.

Overcome is based on extensive research and interviews with America’s toughest warriors, including retired 4-star Admiral William McRaven, retired Navy SEAL Jocko Willink, retired 4-star General Stanley McChrystal, and others.

Purchase Overcome HERE

Jason gave a great TEDX talk. Click here for the link.

Takeaways from this podcast:

  • How to Get Off the “X” (Major, Minor, & Macro)
  • How to thrive through any life ambush
  • How the Overcome mindset is nit a Seal mindset it is a mindset that anyone can choose
  • How to move from defense to offense using the proactive techniques of SEAL teams
  • How to strengthen your endurance during long-term trials 
  • How to rediscover and thrive in your life purpose 
  • How to lead your team (whether in business or family) to success 
  • How to compete with the top 1% in your field 
  • How to stay the course even when you want to quit
  • How to live out of the Pentagon of Performance through Physical Leadership, Mental Leadership, Emotional Leadership, Social Leadership, Spiritual Leadership
  • How to REACT your way to success: Recognize your reality, Evaluate your position, Access possible exit routes, Choose a direction and communicate it, Take action. 
  • How Jason beat the odds to be a Seal and even after he endured he suffered wounds in combat
  • How Jason’s leadership failure was worse than the day he received wounds in combat
  • How leadership is a learned venture

30. Daring Masculinity w/Paul Louis Cole

Paul Louis Cole is President of the globally recognized men’s mentoring organization Christian Men’s Network. Cole is one of the world’s leading experts on men’s issues, character maturity and personal life expansion. He is actively engaged in the restoration of families and rescuing children trapped in abuse and neglect.

His work as a journalist has taken him from the inside of firefights in Middle Eastern wars to perilous revolutions deep in the jungles of Central America. His extensive charity work ranges from the launch of the highly successful charity FarmAid working with Willie Nelson, assisting in launching one of the most successful AIDS programs in African history to building a mentoring program for at risk youth in the U.S. His professional accolades range from Emmy awards to Addy awards to numerous charity and civic awards. He could be considered a double outlier having invested over 20,000 hours in the pursuit of masculine excellence.

Paul is the son of the late Dr. Edwin Louis Cole, the Founder of the Christian Men’s Network who is considered Father of the Christian Men’s Movement. Paul is the founding pastor of C3 Church in Colleyville, Texas and currently serves as President of CMN. CMN is a very successful thirty-five year old church-based ministry, CMN leads a global men’s movement active in over 100 nations and connecting over 86,000 trained leaders on every major continent training over 400,000 men every month. The stated vision is that every pastor would be a successful disciples of men, and every Christian man a strong disciple.
Paul writes, travels extensively and speaks to thousands of men annually. Paul has written several books used in the CMN’s foundational Maximized Manhood curriculum, including “Daring: A Call to Courageous Manhood.”

Paul and his wife Judi reside in Grapevine, Texas. Paul is the father of three high achieving children and the proud grandfather of two amazing grandchildren.

“What you allow to define you will determine your destiny.”

Paul Louis Cole

Takeaways from this podcast:

  • Paul’s father, Edwin Louis Cole, wrote, “Maximized Manhood.”
  • Over the next hundred years they have a vision to reach 100 million men.
  • “Success is result of constancy of purpose.” Paul Louis Cole 
  • Get a vision and stay with it. 
  • How culture is downplaying our masculine strength
  • Rhythm” means plan the things that are going to make you more emotionally healthy. 
  • Thankfulness is a key ingredient to emotional health (Harvard Review Research Document HERE)
  • Get a vision for your life.
  • “Vision is the fuel for overcomers.”  Paul Louis Cole
  • Some common problems of manhood around the world. 
  • “Identity is what we tell ourself about ourself.” Paul Louis Cole 
  • Dr. Dobson’s approach to raising boys. Boys shouldn’t be a in classroom until 8 years old. 
  • The core issue of men is childishness. 
  • Men are like trees. They tend to fall in the way they are leaning. PLC
  • “Every great culture has been built on the character of its heroes and the courage of its warriors.” PLC
  • True of families, churches and nations. 
  • A hero loves others more than his own safety. 
  • To be a warrior has the ability to face the challenge.
  • How Henry Nuewen was heroic 
  • How to rebuild yourself as a mature man. 
  • University of Pennsylvania stats about being held in her father’s arms it helps them immensely. 
  • Plato, “Most men live examined lives.” 
  • “Most men live uninitiated lives.” Paul Louis Cole
  • Paul’s PODCAST INFO: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/brave-men-podcast/id1294789157
  • How to get Paul’s Book, Daring: A Call to Courageous Manhood

29. Networking Secrets w/Paul Edwards

Paul is an Army combat veteran in Operation Iraqi Freedom. He is a professional content ghostwriter for faith-based influencers, thought leaders, entrepreneurs and executives. He specializes in capturing “your voice and producing a steady stream of content to reinforce your impact” through blogs, e-mails, sales letters, tweets, Alexa brief scripts, video scripts, digital courses.

Paul Edwards is an international bestselling author and host of the Influencer Networking Secrets Podcast Show. He is the architect and founder of the Business Beyond Business Mastermind, a strategic connector mastermind group that incorporates teaching, mentoring and accountability for the Radically Generous Entrepreneur. When you read and follow Paul’s “3M” advice, you’ll become a Magnetic source of guidance, wisdom and accountability; a Magnanimous source of generosity, fellowship and coaching; and a Marketable source of entrepreneurship, small business and social innovation.

In his free time he likes to hang with his family and compete as an amateur bodybuilder.

Takeaways from this podcast

  • God’s blueprint for married life
  • How the Torah is the instruction for marriage
  • How God made man and women difficulty 
  • Proverbs 31:10-31 as a guide for men looking for a virtuous woman 
  • Army combat veteran in Operation Iraqi Freedom.
  • Paul’s fitness journey
  • 10 Secrets to Networking Success- Paul’s First Book
  • Business Inside of Business
  • Why Bill Clinton could draw attention from any crowd
  • How to Make Yourself as Frequent and Visible as a Radio or TV Commercial
  • Why just being yourself can be a huge edge in marketing (unless your a jerk)
  • How to create your own unpaid sales force
  • How deep and superficial relationships can help you win 
  • How can we make it difficult for people to say no
  • Go with a giving hand gives you a step forward
  • Build a case to make the working relationship an easy sell
  • Help people to have one more advantage by working with you
  • How John Eldredge and Ransomed Heart has impacted Paul’s life
  • Ask Three Big Questions to help connect relationally: What is going well for you? What is not going well for you? What are you looking forward to?

How to connect with Paul


28. Talking Masculine Archetypes w/Michael Pfaff

Michael is a a Life and Relationship coach based out of Oklahoma City. He works with people who want a better life and better relationships. Michael has a Master’s degree in Depth Psychology.

Takeaways from this podcast

  • For Michael’s Men’s Coaching Practice: https://www.facebook.com/coachmichaelpfaff/
  • Masculine Archetypes: Warrior, King, Magician, Lover
  • What is an archetype?
  • How the archetypes correspond with the four pillars of New Kind of Man
  • How the archetypes can be developed in a man’s life
  • How there is a boyhood version of these that needs to mature into the masculine archetypes
  • How the archetypes when fully expressed thrive off of one another

27. Forging a Noble Manhood w/Stephen Mansfield

True manhood is in decline in our generation. Our society has deformed masculinity, leaving most men unfulfilled and far from the impact they were made for. Stephen will help you fight the battles of your life, the battles you must fight to be the man you are meant to be. Stephen has authored 26 books and he is a reliable voice for men everywhere. His work expands the globe, and he resides in Nashville and also, in Washington DC. As a New York Times bestselling author, Stephen has impacted millions. You can find his work @ https://stephenmansfield.tv/ & https://greatman.tv/.

“What if living in a relationship with God isn’t castration? What if it isn’t like the surgical removal of the very drive and instinct we’ve ever had as men? What if, instead, God wants to enter a relationship with us in which he meets us exactly where we are as men?”

Stephen Mansfield

Takeaways from this podcast

  • Author of 26 books
  • “Endure hardship as discipline.” Hebrews 12:7 
  • How manhood can improve because of Covid-19
  • How brokenness in the society shaped Men on Fire
  • To be a man is to know that God made you to be a man and that shapes the way for a man to live. 
  •  We need to restore a culture of noble manhood and teach our boys. 
  • Why men need to choose a noble battle to fight
  • Why Roosevelt and Churchill are inspiring men today
  • What events in Winston Churchill’s life shaped his greatness
  • Hardship and suffering makes us stronger when we go through it the right way
  • How give heritage to the next generation
  • The battle begins when you realize there is a battle
  • A man needs to use his masculine energy in healthy ways
  • Why a man needs to declare war on himself
  • How to declare war on himself
  • “When a man knows his battle it can become a GPS for their soul.” Stephen Mansfield
  • Why our feminized culture is causing boys to grow breast
  • How the effects a man’s change can rapidly change a family culture
  • Get ready to live changed as we get on the other side of Covid 19

“Men should live for the good of society and the glory of God.”

Stephen Mansfield

How to Connect with Stephen

26. Being Unbreakable w/Scott Flansbaum

Scott’s journey has many twists and turns, but Scott is still standing! Literally. He is a walking miracle. After a routine procedure, he heard news that no one would ever want to hear, “Your paralyzed.” His hard work, grit and determination along with what nurses called a miracle, has shaped Scott in profound ways and he is paying it forward by helping others. Stand by for some inspiration!

The only choice you have in tough times is our response.

Scott Flansbaum

Takeaways from this podcast

  • Why Scott is celebrating other people’s unbreakable story
  • How his faith didn’t waiver through his unbreakable journey
  • How Scott is using his tragedy to inspire others
  • How being a father can help brighten you day
  • Why a legacy of service is contagious 
  • How Scott looks out for the marginalized
  • How strong willed kids need to be bent towards something productive
  • How Scott has overcome one of the worst days in his life
  • How his spinal injury left him with a diagnosis that he was paralyzed
  • How he mentally defied the doctors diagnoses
  • How the right mindset sets you up for success
  • What paralysis is actually like
  • Why Scott’s nurses said he was a walking miracle
  • How Scott continues to fight to walk every since
  • How $72K was raised in two weeks for his specialized brace

How to Connect with Scott

25. Learn, Live & Lead like a Warrior w/ Ret. Navy Seal Chris Sajnog

Chris’ mission is to see others realize their full potential, achievement, growth, and success – and CURE THE DISEASE OF MEDIOCRITY!

Chris has been speaking publicly for more than 25 years. He has also appeared on many television shows, including Fox News and NBC. He has spent most of my career in the military and recently retired to watch his boys grow up! During his time in the military he traveled the world speaking to our leaders and “convincing them” to give us the mission – I feel confident I can convince your team to reach your goals!

Chris devotes his time to writing, consulting, and speaking. His book, How to Shoot Like a Navy SEAL is the best selling shooting book on Amazon. I also have more than 20,000 followers on Twitter and “fans” on Facebook.

“What would William Wallace do?”

Chris Sajnog

Vulnerability is strength.”

Chris Sajnog

Takeaways from this podcast:

  • How being a father shifted the importance of his life’s mission. 
  • Why lying to yourself betrays our confidence as men
  • Why every man has to first lead themselves 
  • Why all men need to watch Hacksaw Ridge 
  • How resistance helps to grow men and prove their own manliness
  • How being a Navy Seal helped Chris to have greater focus
  • How to encourage your kids to do the right thing
  • Why surrounding yourself with good fathers can help you to become a good father
  • How Chris got orders to to BUDS 
  • Why he choose the Navy 
  • The most difficult part of BUDS
  • The funniest thing that happened at BUDS
  • Why Navy Seal training is a well orchestrated process
  • How he honed his skills as a Navy Seal Sniper
  • How adapting skills can be 
  • How he become a better Dad through what he learned as a US Navy Seal
  • How a warrior ethos impacts every aspect of life
  • How warriors need soft and hard traits need to be balanced 
  • Why I got out of the Navy 
  • Why humility is a great way to help connect with your family
  • Why manliness is best for society
  • How genders are different but equal
  • How to be more manly 

Books Chris Recommended

How to connect with Chris


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